Top Three Ways You Can Emotionally Engage With A girl
A lot of guys have the misconception that pickup techniques are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Ultimately though, successfully attracting a woman is about making a distinct emotional connection between you two. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you have to adapt and adjust to the sort of person she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to quickly move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being downright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name once more?
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K ?
You: Are you serious? Haha, I don't want to talk to you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, every Kathy who spells it with a K I know has been such a party girl. horrible influences on my life ...
The most vital aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a principle called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all types of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. 1 of the most effective routines are magic tricks. A woman will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantaneously create intrigue and interest towards you. However, this does not necessarily create attraction. To create attraction, you have to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Once more, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her into the trick. Stuff like reading her mind or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her emotions.
C) Understanding and reading her
Women will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as a person and acknowledge the sort of person she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I first met you, you seemed sort of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those who observe and those who are observed, and you seem a lot more like the observer sort of person. I think when people first meet you, they'll think you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world using your emotions and just want to make certain that the people you let into your life are truly good people. But that's just a shield you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who genuinely understands you as a person.
This is one of the most powerful means to instantly emotionally engage a woman. This will instantly create powerful attraction along with connection. However, you actually have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.